Couples Counseling
It is common for couples to have conflicts, to create unhealthy patterns in their relationship, and to start to withdraw or become dissatisfied in their relationship. Often differences that may have first been attractive become irritating and problematic. The blame game begins and pretty soon everyone is unhappy.
I work to help clients identify both the positives and the negatives of their relationship. I encourage each person to take responsibility for their part in making positive changes. This may include becoming more assertive, becoming a better listener, being willing to compromise or learning to accept differences.
Though couples sometimes determine their problems are irreconcilable often I see couples become closer, more loving, and happier in their relationship.
Tools for Couples Counseling includes:
Creating a Relationship Vision to determine common goals and assess where they are now
Focus on Appreciation of each other and what attracted them to each other initially
Create a Safe Environment for open communication about conflicts and problems
Facilitate Understanding of each other from a place of caring and respect
Facilitate Constructive Communication of feelings, wants and needs, making “requests”
Work for a “win-win” Solution to problems
Teach “Fair Fight” techniques that facilitate conflict resolution
Acceptance of Differences and learning to live in peace